Back from the spa – Oh my God… it felt so good.
I haven’t had a manicure and pedicure since December??
I just finished reading this month’s Success magazine. This magazine not only talks about serious business stuff! but also the articles and interviews are out of this world!
Here’s an insert from STANDING IN YOUR OWN WAY- STOP SELF-SABOTAGE, from Pat Pearson.
Recognizing that you are self sabotaging is an important first step toward changing your mindset and behavior- and to achieving your goals. Pearson identified some of the ways people sabotage themselves:
Throwing it Away: “This is the person who achieves the goal but then thinks, I don’t believe I deserve it, so I won’t let myself keep it.” Pearson says a classic example is Oprah and her battle with her weight. “She has a high deserve level when it comes to business, but she has a bugaboo she can’t get over with her weight. A lot of times these are unconscious patterns.”
Settling for Less: “You say you want A, but you settle for B. This is the example of always a bridesmaid, never a bride.” Pearson says.
Denial: “ I am just going to ignore it and will all go away.” Any form of substance abuse is a classic example.
The Fetal Flow: “This refers to people who snatch defeat from the hands of victory,” Pearson says. (Think of the latest celebrity who single-handedly destroys his or her own career).
For instance, when things go wrong, instead of criticizing yourself, work on being self-nurturing in the face of your stressful situation. Or, reach out to those who support you, who remind you of your strengths and talents. Instead of telling yourself you will never lose those last 15 pounds, change your thoughts to, “I choose to exercise daily and make healthy food choices.”